When men go to a bar or nightclub, they are often hoping to meet women. It may seem reasonable to assume that women attend these places with the same intentions in mind. However, the reality is often more complex. Unfortunately, that is not always the case for every woman choosing to experience the nightlife. The following descriptions outline the various types of women that frequent bars and nightclubs, tips on how to approach them and which ones to avoid.
The Wing Woman
If a girlfriend has just gone through a tough breakup or is desperately seeking a man, her friend may take on the duty of her wingwoman. Spotting this duo and correctly identifying which girl is filling which role can be challenging, but worth it. If you notice a girl that seems to be constantly surveying the room and pointing people out to her friend, you may have located the wing woman. This scenario is one that can play in your favor, as it is obvious that at least one of these women is on the hunt for a man.
Your task is to determine which one it is. Find a way to approach them, introduce yourself and offer to buy them a drink. As you are striking up conversation, it may become more obvious which one of the two is the wing woman and which one is searching for someone. If one of the ladies is directing your attention to her friend and bringing her into the conversation, you have found your girl.
The Party Girl
The next type of girl that may be encountered at a bar or nightclub is the party girl. Girls often get together and head to the club for a “girl’s night out.” Consequently, this often means that they are actually avoiding guys, wanting to spend time with the girls. These events include dancing, drinking and partying with the girls. If you spot a big group of girls that are throwing back shots, dancing with each other and, seemingly, paying little attention to their surroundings, you have spotted the party girls. These girls are most likely not going to be interested in meeting men. However, if you’re determined to try attracting girls in clubs, it’s important to understand their mindset and approach respectfully.
If they do engage in conversation or flirt with you, it’s likely to get you to buy her a drink. The party girl can be can be a fun time. However, if you are searching for a relationship save your time, money and effort.
The Girlfriend
Just because a girl has a boyfriend, doesn’t mean she doesn’t sometimes seek the attention of a new man. However, these encounters have a shelf life and are most likely, never really going anywhere. Learn to spot the girls that have a boyfriend and are just looking for attention without the intention to follow through. If she seems hot and then cold, that could be a red flag. Constantly checking her cell phone or frequently sending texts is another indication that this girl may be taken. Don’t waste your time on these girls. It is a dead end road.
The Cougar
If you eye a woman that looks as though she could be 15 to 20 years older than you, she probably is. She is known as a “cougar” or a “MILF.” These are the moms and older women who finally got a night off from their husbands, kids, or other adult responsibilities and have decided to let loose and get a little bit wild. If you are looking to check something off your bucket list, then this could be an intriguing option. Otherwise, steer clear of the cougar. These women get wild and out of control, quickly. This interaction is not one that is going to lead somewhere but will be a good story.
Being able to identify each category can increase your success rate and help you find what you are looking for.
The Wallflower
If you see a woman perched on the side of the dance floor or on the edge of the room, you’ve identified the wallflower. She may have been dragged there by her friends or talked into coming when the environment isn’t one in which she is most comfortable. The wallflower can be a safe woman to target if you go about it the right way. You don’t want to intimidate her by coming on too strong.
Strike up a conversation, she’ll be happy that you did. These women are probably more sober than some of the other categories of women, meaning that your game needs to be spot on. The wallflower is a good place to start when you’re hoping to meet someone that offers potential for a relationship. They are not out at the bar simply to get wild, but their presence there demonstrates that they are open to the chance of meeting someone.
The Future Girlfriend
While men may not always think so, over half of women that go to bars are hoping to meet a man. These women can sometimes get lost in the mix, but they are there. Keep your eyes out for the girl that seems aware of her surroundings and who is present. Look for the girl that is having fun but isn’t totally out of control. Locate the girl who is with a few friends but isn’t surrounded by an entire posse.
If you notice the one that is drinking socially but isn’t throwing back rows of Fireball shots, you may have found one with the most potential. Go up to her and do your thing. Approaching women that are receptive is just a matter of saying: “Hi, how’s it going? My name is …” This gives you an opening to engage in conversation. Ask her questions and show genuine interest in her as a person. Remember, authenticity is key in making a good impression.
There are many different types of women that go to bars and nightclubs, each with their own set of intentions. Being able to identify each category can increase your success rate and help you find what you are looking for. These are just a few of the women that frequent bars and what their intentions might be. Use this as a guideline the next time you go out on the town.
