Sometimes all you need to do is show up. Yep, that’s the essence of success in life, and it applies to girls more than you can imagine. If you want to improve with women, then you’re going to show up and put in the work.
That means going out even when you don’t particularly feel like it, it means showing up to events in order to socialize with friends and potentially meet new people. That’s because you never know when you’ll be meeting the girl of your dreams.
Let me tell you, there are times where you’ll go out and nothing good will happen. You’ll be out, bored out of your mind, it will be raining and you’ll think: “Oh man, this sucks!”. True, it might not always go the way you want it to go, but as long as you keep on showing up, you’re bound to be successful. It’s like a player going up to bat in baseball. He won’t get a hit every time, but he has to show up and strikeout in order to get those homeruns. This persistence is key to overcoming approach anxiety and becoming more confident in social situations. In life, you simply can’t expect it to always work out with girls. You’ll go through slumps… and when you do, you have to keep on showing up in order to get over it.
Showing up is the most important part
Showing up is also one of the most appreciated things that you can do for someone else. I heard a quote once, “It doesn’t matter what you wear, it doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you show up, I’ll be happy”.
An example of this was my birthday party (we had awesome time)… what meant the most wasn’t the gifts that I received, or the free drinks (and there were many of those), but rather the fact that people took time out of their busy schedule to show up. It’s their presence that I appreciated more than anything, and I think at the end of the night we had around 20 people gathered together to celebrate my special day.
Being there for her in a relationship
Finally, if you’re ever in a relationship, showing up is one of the most important things you can do as well. You might not feel like going to her events, but damn it, just show up anyways. I’m not saying to bend over backwards for her (Yesterday’s article was all about not doing that), but instead I want you to want to be there.
She’ll appreciate that more than anything in the world. So put aside the shows, the books, and the games that you play at home, and show up for life. By doing this, you’ll overcome your inhibitions, meet more women, be happier, and when you finally do meet a special girl, she’ll appreciate you more women, be happier and when you finally do meet a special girl, she’ll appreciate you more.
