Guide To: How To Approach A Group Of Girls

Have you ever laid your eyes on a group of really attractive women at a party or in a bar? Say, at least four of them? It’s tempting, and you’d really like to get to know these women, but approaching a group can seem daunting. Many people find it awkward or scary to randomly break into a group conversation. However, with the right approach, it’s entirely possible to successfully interact with a group of women in a respectful and confident manner at a party or in a bar? Say, at least four of them? It’s like Christmas, only you don’t get to unwrap them, because you can’t approach a group of girls just like that, right? It’s too awkward, randomly breaking into a group. And scary. But seriously, it’s tempting, and you’d really like to get to know these girls. You’re in luck, because I’m here to tell you how to approach a group of girls – and I’ll give you tools to do it! First step: get a friend to burn your money if you don’t approach.

Overcome Approach Anxiety

I’m not pulling your Johnson. Hand your friend a 20 dollar bill and a lighter, then tell him to count down from 10. If you’re not approaching that group by zero, your 20 goes up in flames. Trust me, by the time you burned 60 bucks, you’ll approach girls like no tomorrow. The lesson is: don’t shoot yourself in the crotch. Overcoming anxiety is key. If you can approach one person, why not a group? All you need is to know how to be confident and practice. Remember, there’s often little at stake in these social interactions. You’ll most likely never see these people again, so use this as an opportunity to learn and grow. Yes, you might feel awkward or insecure at first, but that’s part of the learning process. You’ll never move forward if you don’t push your comfort zone, so challenge yourself to approach women in various social settings, whether it’s at a party, in a bar, or even on the street.

How To Approach: Body Language.

a) Walking up: this mustn’t be different than walking up to a bunch of good friends. Take your hands out of your pockets, walk and breathe slowly and consciously. Look only at them, and discard the surroundings. You want to be aware of the present moment, but not distracted by it. Also, don’t move in too close: you don’t want to intrude their space. Stop close enough so you can talk to them easily without leaning forward.

b) Posture: leaning in is bad. You’ll be an intruder invading the group’s space, plus, it you’ll appear needy and clingy. Instead, you want to lean back just a tad, with your feet slightly apart. You will take up some space and it will show that you’re easy and comfortable.

c) Smile, but don’t overdo it: with a bright smile, you radiate positive energy. By smiling all over the place at everything they say and do, though, you’ll go overboard. Let your face mirror a positive attitude, but be serious or deadpan when needed, e.g. when delivering a funny line.

d) Gestures: as I said earlier, hands out of your pockets! Use them while you speak. For starters, fold your hands in front of your chest for a good vantage point. I always emphasize looking into people’s eyes, so do it. Plus, address them all. Do focus on one person so you won’t appear all over the place, but give regular attention to the others to engage them. You’ll see that the person you address will become an anchor as you keep the others involved.

How To Approach: What To Say.

It can be any variety of things from “hello” to “I like ice cream!” What’s always worked best for me is clear, straightforward honesty:

“Hi. You guys look like fun, so I decided to come over and meet you!”
“Hey, I noticed you so I thought I’d talk to you.”

Don’t ask questions, they suck energy out of the interaction. Instead, stimulate the conversation with your own input. As with a single person, you can observe: “You laugh so much, you must be cool people.” Talk about the friends you’re there with, tell them why this is your favorite bar, or talk about that amazing one you discovered on vacation in Paris.

You see, if you’ve mastered approaching individuals, you already have the foundation for approaching groups. Whether it’s one person or several, the core principles remain the same. The most important realization is that numbers don’t make as much difference as you might think. Your primary goal should be to enjoy yourself and share that positive energy. This approach can be particularly effective when interacting with women who may seem reserved or uninterested at first. Your genuine enthusiasm can often break the ice and create a more welcoming atmosphere numbers don’t make that much of a difference. You’re still there to enjoy yourself. Share that! Since you’re talking to a group, though, you want to make sure you keep them engaged on the same level as you would a single person – through eye contact and relating personally. Otherwise, you’ll end up losing them all. And again, here’s your most important advice: practice, practice, practice. Social dynamics are intricate, but you can find patterns and work with them.