The massive list of everything we could think of that attracts women to men. Sure you might have a few contradictions in there (but in life, there are a ton of contradictions!) but we feel it’s relatively accurate. Understanding these factors can significantly improve your interactions with women. For each point, we attempt to explain and justify our point, often referring to a biological response in humans. For example, we try to explain what women find attractive in terms of physical strength (it’s not just the appearance, it’s because the male that is stronger is likely to survive longer than his peers.)
We are happy to hear your feedback, let us know what you think, what you would add and if there are any that you don’t agree with!
0-10 Let’s Get Started
- Clear, beautiful and healthy looking eyes. Eyes provide an insight on the level of health of the individual, and healthy eyes indicate a healthy mate. It was also surveyed as the most attractive feature according to various women’s magazines.
- Being wealthy. Wealth indicates power, security, comfort and even excitement. This is very attractive to women who crave all these feelings.
- Being intelligent. Intelligence, demonstrated by high grades, an impressive line of studies or career are very attractive.
- Body posture. Within 1 second, just from how you stand, women will judge you as attractive or not. Good body posture indicates that you are a healthy mate and that is very attractive to women. Lean back.
- Speaking to her true self. If you can see past the walls most people put up and truly speak to the real person inside of them, you’ll be one of the few that understands them. This makes you very important.
- Convinced and has strong beliefs. Be opinionated about things. If you ask someone a question about a topic and they have something interesting to say about it, that’s attractive. Be opinionated.
- Being energetic. Have you ever heard the expression, “he was the life of the party” This is energy, its contagious and most people don’t have enough of it. It is very attractive.
- Being attentive to details in your life. Are you meticulous? Being attentive to the details in your life will mean that you will pay attention to the details in her life. This attention to detail is one of the key factors in how to attract women, as it shows thoughtfulness and consideration. Are you meticulous? Being attentive to the details in your life will mean that you will pay attention to the details in her life.
- Being passionate. Be in the moment and enjoy life every day. It’s not about the destination, but about the journey. You’ll find your true love along the way.
- Being witty. This is very attractive as it alludes to being smart, and intelligence is attractive to women. If you are dating then wit will be a big part of your evening.
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10-20 Wealth playfulness and more
- A confident attitude towards life. Confidence indicates that you are successful and to be trusted. When you trust yourself, others will as well. Women will trust you with themselves.
- Being playful. Playfulness means that you are fun to be with, consequently triggering feelings of attraction in women.
- Being touchy. Human touch is a powerful way to trigger feelings of attraction. Naturally touchy people have a lot more sex than people who refrain from human contact. This is important when you flirt with a girl.
- Bravery. Being brave, alert in emergency situations is very attractive and indicates that you will be able to protect her from danger.
- Being excited about life. The energy that people emit when they are excited about living is contagious and very attractive.
- Being unavailable. People want what they can’t get. Being hard ( but not impossible! ) to get is attractive.
- A cocky smile is attractive. Cocky smiles, demonstrated in movies such as James Bond and Top Gun, trigger feelings of confidence and dominance which is extremely arousing. Read up on how to pick up girls for more information.
- Genuine smiles in general are attractive. As long as they are a reaction to something that occurred and not because you are being polite or awkward.
- Being concentrated on a task is attractive to women. If a woman can watch you while you are completely involved in a task, then she is likely to be attracted to you. Examples of this can be her watching you paint, play an instrument, anything you do well that requires full absolute concentration on your part.
- Playing an instrument is attractive to women. Wonder why the rock stars get the girls… there are many reasons but those who play music are automatically ranked more attractive than those who don’t.
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20-30 Are you famous?
- Being famous. If you’re famous, then by definition a lot of people know you. If a lot of people know you, you are therefore important. Being important is very attractive to women.
- Physical height. Height provides a sense of security and comfort which is very attractive to women. Being taller is also a dominant trait which is attractive. Ultimately, if you are short but can provide a feeling of security and comfort, this will be equivalent to height.
The best guide to creating attraction regardless of height is the Obsession Method, you can read our review of it here. - Not caring. A carefree attitude is liberating and very attractive.
- Being well dressed. Wearing nice clothes demonstrate social status; accentuate your physical features and shows that you take care of yourself.
- Unique accessories that match your personality. In our society, accessories that stand out provoke curiosity, signify confidence and will attract women. “What’s that necklace you are wearing,” says the girl at the bar. That is one of the dating tips for how to attract women.
- Shoes that are in style. The first thing that most girls notice in guys is what kind of shoes they are wearing. Shoes speak more about you than all clothes. You can be wearing a diaper on your head, jeans from the 80s… but if you’re wearing brand new shoes that are in style, girls will automatically see you as attractive. If you don’t have the shoes… get them.
- Well fitting shirts. Baggy shirts are out! Shirts should complement your body and show off your features. Now I’m not talking about spandex, but regular well fitting shirts. You know why suits look good? Because they are tailored to fit you perfectly. This is attractive to women.
- A deep, commanding voice. Your voice says a lot about you, literally. The next time you strike up a chat with a woman, don’t sound squeaky.
- Human smell. Sweat, at a very basic level, is very attractive to women. It triggers feeling of arousal in women. However, don’t go too far and stink. That’s repelling.
- Some light, musky cologne. These smells will mimic the natural smell that males produce and used lightly, will arouse some females.
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30-40 A leader among men
- Leadership Being a leader is very attractive to women, it demonstrates social status and importance. Make decisions, lead the pack.
- Being dominant. Women are naturally submissive, and men should be naturally dominant. Unfortunately with all our yoga classes and hormonal milk, this has changed in the past century.
- Physical strength, muscles. Being muscular provides a sense of excitement and security in women. It also alludes to dominance which will seduce most women.
- Being dangerous. Danger is hot, exciting, energising and can be very addictive. Women love the bad boy.
- Being good with animals. Being good with living things indicates that you will be a good mate, capable of protecting and caring for any offspring you could potentially have. This is very attractive.
- Being good with kids. Same as above.
- Being genuinely interested in her. People love people who are interested in them. If you genuinely want to know what makes her tick, this will be attractive.
- Being the best in a group of men. If you are the best among competing men, then out of that group, you will be the most attractive to women.
- Being disciplined. People want to be surrounded by competent individuals. If you are able to control yourself when she can’t, she will see you as having a lot of willpower. This demonstrates that you are in control of your life.
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40-50 How Fun Are You?
- Not taking life too seriously. Having the gift to be able to laugh at life and embrace it as an enjoyable experience. You don’t have to think about marriage every time you talk to a girl.
- Being positive. Positive people are attractive. If you can show her the sunny side of things, she will thank you for it.
- Being a little selfish. Being slightly selfish indicates that you care a lot about yourself and your well-being. This relates to confidence and importance which are attractive. Don’t be a martyr.
- Being generous. The complete opposite of being selfish, being generous can be attractive as well because it demonstrates that you are not needy and that you are wealthy. Note! Being generous does NOT mean you should buy things for people so they like you… this is not attractive. A good example of being generous would be, if you’re with friends, you could purchase the pitcher of drinks. This subconsciously communicates that you are in charge, dominant and wealthy.
- Spontaneity. Very attractive, alludes to excitement.
- Good hair. Having nice, healthy and well groomed hair shows that you take care of yourself.
- Trimmed nails. Women notice. If you take care of yourself, she’ll appreciate it.
- A slight tan. These days, a tan indicates that you’re wealthy and physically healthy.
- Relaxed attitude. Being relaxed shows a lot of confidence.
- Being driven. If you know what you want in life, and you’re pursuing it, this is attractive.
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50-60 Let’s get physical
- Nice teeth. It is very important to have nice teeth, women think about it every time they consider kissing you.
- Having nice possessions, such as a car, house or a boat. These indicate wealth, excitement and power, all of which are attractive.
- A sense of adventure. If you’re curious about life, and are willing to take risks. You can lure her into your world and she’ll be happy to follow you past her limits.
- Honesty. Being able to speak the truth is difficult and shows that you have accepted who you are as a person. It also shows that you don’t care what others think, which is very attractive.
- Whispering in her ear. The sense of secrecy, mysteriousness and excitement that comes from a whisper is very attractive.
- Being busy. If you are busy, then you are important, independent and have a life.
- Being a man. Women love men who do manly things, stop doing yoga and go play a sport, hit the gym and get dirty.
- Having a nice butt. A sexy fitness indicator, attainable through the gym.
- Pre-selection. If other women want you, then there must be a reason. Having many people want you makes you attractive. You aren’t a guy who has time to look at personals.
- Being genuine. Say what you mean and do what you say. This is hard, but attractive.
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60-70 Picking her up
- Physically picking her up. Ever heard of sweeping her off her feet? This is it.
- Touching her hair. There is something about having your hair touched that is relaxing and arousing at the same time.
- A nice face. Women love men with an attractive face. That’s what she’ll be kissing and you better believe it makes a difference.
- Originality. Women crave excitement, originality provides that. Seduction is never the same and being original is an essential part of it.
- Experience. Maturity can be very arousing; if you know what you’re doing she’ll appreciate it and you’ll get laid more often.
- Being funny. Laughter makes people feel more comfortable and happy. Also, when people are laughing at your jokes, you immediately gain social status which is attractive. If you can make her laugh, you’re halfway there. Read how to make a girl smile.
- Independence. People don’t like neediness, being independent shows that you are self sufficient and can take care of yourself.
- Teasing her. Playfulness, excitement, she loves it.
- Composure. If you can keep your cool under stressful situations, she’ll notice.
- Being selective. If you are selective, then it implies that you aren’t needy and are valuable enough to want many people want you.
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70-80 Are you a challenge?
- Being challenging. Playing hard to get is as true for women as it is for men. People want what they can’t have, and if they have to work for something, they’ll appreciate it much more.
- Focus. If you know what you want, and are determined to get it, then that’s attractive.
- Modesty. No one likes a show-off. Being modest is great, and attractive. There is nothing better than a girl finding out something good about you through a friend.
- Muscular abs. An indicator of health.
- Being natural. If you’re genuine about how you feel, without caring what others think, then that’s attractive. You want to know if people can handle the real you.
- Charismatic. If your spoken words and gestures can warm up a room, she’ll notice and be warmed up as well. If she doesn’t, her matchmaking friend will tell her about you.
- Sensual. Some people are frigid and cold. Some people are warm and very alert to their senses. If you are in tune with your body, you’ll likely be in tune with hers as well.
- A man that loves to have fun. Everyone wants to be around a guy who enjoys himself, be that guy.
- Goes against the rest of society. No one likes a follower. If you have a conviction about something, stick with it. Make up your own mind about things and people will respect you.
- Caring. Compassion and caring show that you will be a good father and is therefore very attractive.
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80-90 Going after your goals
- Persistent. If you go after your goals, other will notice. This is very attractive as it shows will power that not many people have.
- Being respected. If your entourage respects you, then she will as well.
- Loyal. People do not want to get hurt, and will avoid you if aren’t loyal. It is better to remain single than to get into a relationship you don’t plan on staying in.
- Romance. Spicing it up in a relationship is critical and attractive. Don’t always do the same thing because it will get boring really fast.
- Drama. Ever wonder why women love soap opera’s? It is because they crave drama, gossip, secrets. It is exciting and attractive. If you have an eventful life, people will be attracted to it.
- The way you move. If you have calm, controlled and relaxed gestures, then you will be seen as someone that is confident.
- A mysterious grin. There’s something about a grin that arouses curiosity and intrigue.
- Being extravagant. Sometimes going over the top is good, if you can let yourself go from time to time, people will notice.
- Loving yourself. If you truly love yourself for who you are, then others will as well.
- Being a teacher. Have you ever wondered why so many girls have crushes on their teachers? It is because being a teacher is a sign of power and knowledge, be a teacher.
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90-100 Clean and powerful
- Clean, clear skin. Physically, nice skin is a health indicator and women will naturally be attracted to healthy looking skin.
- Quick mind. If you can think on your feet, and are quick to reply to her playful teases, you’ll be seen as smart and alert. A woman would rather be with a man that stimulates her intellectually rather than someone who is brain dead. It is much better to find something original to say on the spot rather than to use pick up lines.
- Attentive to details. It’s the little things that matter, if you notice that she’s done something different with her hair when no one else does, she will appreciate and be attracted to that.
- Being in tune with her. Being in tune with someone is one of the biggest factors in relationships. Have you ever felt chemistry? Have you ever felt like you were on the same wavelength? If you and your partner are similar (and you should!) this will come naturally and will be one of the most attractive traits. The same applies for meeting women during the day or night. If you’re picking up a girl in a club, then high energy is appropriate because your energy will be matching hers. If you arrive with high energy during the day and she is reading in the library, this will clash. Read the article on how to approach girls for more information.
- Being knowledgeable about various subjects. If you are versatile, then you’ll never be short of conversational topics. Being flexible and able to adapt to all kinds of situations is attractive. Go read some books.
- Innocence. It’s no fun when you know everything, have tried everything and have been to the edge and back. A little bit of innocence is attractive because it makes you more human. There’s always something that you haven’t tried, let her know and invite you to try it with you. Asking for her advice is alright as well.
- Challenging her. Forcing her to be on her toes, teasing her, is exciting and attractive.
- Be a planner. If you are always organising events, you are automatically the leader that has a high social status and a lot of energy. This is very attractive; everyone wants to be invited to outings.
- Being open. Tell her about your life, the real one. Cut the B.S. and you’ll stand out as someone who’s not trying to prove anything to anyone.
- Being direct. Being direct is very powerful and attractive. People use indirect methods because they want to ‘feel things out’ and not get hurt. Being direct shows that you are confident, bold and not scared of rejection.
- Be yourself, the good yourself. You shouldn’t try to pretend to be something that you aren’t. You should grow and continually improve, but remain genuine. Don’t hide your faults, everyone has them. The old saying,” be yourself” is very true and is ultimately what will attract the woman of your dreams.
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Does it mean that you have to be all these things in order to attract beautiful women into your life? No way! The universe has a weird way of working and you’ll be attracted to the one you were meant to be with. She’ll love your faults, your weaknesses and your strengths. Have faith, believe in destiny and you shall meet your soul mate. You’ll know it when it happens.
Plus, if you ever get stuck, there are specific methods you can follow such as the Obsession Method (review here). We were highly impressed with the results!
Frequently Asked Questions
What things that attract women to men?
Definitely charisma, charm and confidence. I know it’s a cliche to say but it’s less about your appearance and more about what you think about yourself that matters. People will treat you how you treat yourself!
Men of reddit what are little things women do that attract you?
When they show up! Seriously though, the path to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Look cute, give him a look and make him good food… and he’ll love you forever!
What are some things that women do to attract a man she likes?
I read that a woman will subconsciously play with her hair and as a result, exposing her neck. The science behind it? I don’t know.
Frequently Asked Questions
What things that attract women to men?
Definitely charisma, charm and confidence. I know it's a cliche to say but it's less about your appearance and more about what you think about yourself that matters. People will treat you how you treat yourself!
Men of reddit what are little things women do that attract you?
When they show up! Seriously though, the path to a man's heart is through his stomach. Look cute, give him a look and make him good food... and he'll love you forever!
What are some things that women do to attract a man she likes?
I read that a woman will subconsciously play with her hair and as a result, exposing her neck.
The science behind it? I don't know.
