What I Learned After Going On Over 75 Tinder Dates

If you want to date women on Tinder, but would like to avoid 80-95% of the crap most men go through on the first year… then this article’s for you. I’m about to reveal to you the “endgame” for men on Tinder and share some essential Tinder tips that will change how you swipe forever, but would like to avoid 80-95% of the crap most men go through on the first year… then this article’s for you.

I’m about to reveal to you the “endgame” for men on Tinder.

If you’ve ever tried dating women on Tinder yourself, you’ve probably suffered at least one of the following situations:

• You swipe right on hundreds of women, only to get one measly match every week (or less)
• The ladies you DO match with almost never reply to your messages
• The ones who DO reply immediately lose interest
• The ones who DO stay interested… usually don’t get interested enough to meet you face-to-face
• The ones who DO agree to meet up… usually cancel the date on the last minute

It’s a royal pain. I know.

I’ve been on so many dates that I’m currently writing two articles/guides on ways to make more women swipe right on your profile, and ways to “open” conversations that lead to dates with your matches.

Even though going on a bunch of dates sounds like fun (in theory), the truth is that it was a grueling experience. Not all dates are going to be fun! That’s why it’s crucial to improve your Tinder game and make the most out of your matches (in theory), the truth is that it was a grueling experience. Not all dates are going to be fun! I almost feel like saying I went on over 75 Tinder dates… so you won’t have to.

Allow me to spoil the ending by revealing the 6 things I’ve learned after going on those 75 Tinder dates…

Spoiler #1: Everyone Wears Masks

Think about the random people you meet in life – co-workers, baristas, people you meet on the commute, etc.

Ever noticed that they all seem like decent folk when you meet them… but when you get to know them better, you realize they’re all kind of messed up in some way?

Spoiler alert: EVERYONE’S kind of messed up in some way. No exceptions.

Everyone just looks normal in public because everyone wears “masks” – but trust me, everyone’s dealing with some messed-up crap in their lives.

On Tinder, women tend to wear even BIGGER masks. (And not just because of the pandemic) And they feel they should – it’s a dating app, and dating often leads to sex, and no girl wants to be seen as a slut. (Pickup 101, right?)

My advice: Assume nothing. Don’t go to a date thinking you’re about to meet a girl who’s everything she said she’d be on her Tinder description. She won’t be. She’ll be messed up in some way. This is why it’s important to know how to respond to “hey” on Tinder and keep the conversation engaging from the start. But after you’ve dated around a while, you’ll learn what I did: That dating is all about finding the ladies whose “mess-ups” are okay with you, and maybe even makes the relationship all the more enjoyable. Read about our slightly different experience on Eharmony in our eharmony review.

It’s crazy, but that’s how life works. Better learn it now than later.

Spoiler #2: Women Will Shock You.

That “shy, quiet, reader girl” you swiped right on? She’ll invite you to Netflix and chill at her place right after the first date.

That “girl who loves the outdoors”? She hates the park.

Women will shock you. So expect the unexpected.

My advice: Let them shock you.

When you make date plans, keep things loose and flexible. Start with something easy – a simple dinner-and-drinks date somewhere close to your place is always best.

But if she suddenly starts asking about your living arrangements, invite her to see your place. You’ll be surprised at how often you’ll get a “Yes.”

Spoiler #3: Women are Super-Predictable.

You know what I’ve learned after 75 Tinder dates? That women are super-predictable.

People like to think they’re special or unique. But on a date, they all ask the SAME questions:

• Where are you from?
• What made you move to this town?
• What do you do for a living?
• What do you do for fun?

But you know what? That’s actually a good thing. The more you get asked the same old questions, the more you can practice funny/sexy answers, or even telling stories that rope the ladies in.

My advice: Don’t try to make every date unique.

The more you try, the less rapport you’ll build with her… and you’ll end up getting fewer of the results you want.

Spoiler #4: You’ll Learn More About Yourself.

I won’t kid you – some Tinder dates will SUCK.

She might have a bad attitude, she might be boring, you might say or do something stupid that turns her off, and so on. It happens.

But again, that’s a good thing – over time, you’ll learn what you like and what you DON’T like in dating.

“Learn more about yourself from others”

Personally, all those sucky dates helped me know myself better. I learned that I’m not really into most pop culture and trendy “equality” shit, and I’m more of a traditional male.

Sure, some women on Tinder have called me a “misogynist” or “chauvinist pig” over the months.

But that’s a good thing – now I know how to spot feminazis a mile away. Swipe left.

My advice: Don’t try to escape sucky Tinder dates.

Even they can teach you some valuable life skills, like spotting the crazy ones ahead of time.

Spoiler #5: Your Neighbors Will Think You’re a Pimp.

This one’s pretty fun…

When you go on 75 Tinder dates over several months, I’m pretty sure you’ll lead at least a handful of girls to your place for some good consensual, meaningless sex.

If you do, your neighbors will notice. That’s a guarantee. (One of them even asked if I was a pimp.)

My advice: If the police aren’t involved, there’s no need to explain yourself.

Just let your nosy neighbors know that all the ladies leave your place happy.

Spoiler #6: There’s More Than One “The One” For You.

Towards the end of my 75 Tinder dates, I arrived at an unsettling realization: I was getting tired of Tinder.

I mean, the women were nice, the dates were nice, the meaningless sex was nice… but I realized I wanted more. I wanted something permanent. I wanted to find “the one.”

I thought I found her when I met “Amy” (not her real name). She was perfect. We really did it for each other.

Then, a few months into our relationship, she wanted out.

I couldn’t understand why. All she said was she wanted to be single again, and that I deserved better than that. So we broke up, and I was left wondering if I just let “the one” slip away.

“Life can throw you a curve ball”

Turns out, I didn’t.

Later on, I met “Irene,” and she was ALSO perfect. We ALSO really did it for each other. And today she’s my current girlfriend, and we couldn’t be happier.

My advice: Such is life.

Luck is definitely a factor when it comes to finding “the one,” but there’s more than one “the one” for you. And if you date long enough, you WILL find her.

The good news? The harder you work on yourself and your seduction process, the luckier you get. And that’s an encouraging thought.

So Is Tinder Worth It?

In my case, obviously Tinder was worth it. Thanks to Tinder, my phone started rewarding me with:

• • New female friends
  • New friends-with-benefits
  • Enough casual, consensual sex to make me tired of it
  • The relationship of my dreams
  • Some valuable life lessons that will stick with me forever

  

  But of course, you’ll need to set your profile right and open chats the right way, first. Only then will Tinder start to reward you the way it rewarded me… and since I’ve spoiled the ending for you, you probably won’t have to go through 75 Tinder dates to get it.

  Resources & References

  Want to learn more from other people’s Tinder experiences? Here are a few sources that might be of interest:

  1. If you are still finding it hard to be successful with women, it might be time to look in the mirror. The guys at The Social Man say being successful with women starts with believing you are worthy enough to have her… if you are not the man you want to be, then you will not get the women you’ve always desired.
  2. A lighthearted but relevant video by SupDaily06 on what he learned from Tinder dating
     
  3. An interesting Tinder success story based on karma and the universe, proving that dating apps can bring true love together by Cat Peterson
     
  4. An interesting take on a male’s perspective of what he learned about himself while using Tinder by ImmoralHumor