11 Fun Things to Talk About With Your Girlfriend When You Run Out Of Things To Say

Do you worry about running out of things to talk about with your girlfriend?

It’s not your fault, but it’s a VERY legitimate fear to have. Have one too many dry conversations with your girlfriend, she’ll feel that “you’re just not connecting anymore” and that can lead to a devastating breakup.

I don’t want that to happen to you. No breakups, no exes, tears and fights here.

I’m going to rescue you and highlight-it color-1]transform you into the super-boyfriend that ALWAYS has something interesting to say.[/highlight-it] I’ll give you a whole bunch of [conversation starters for couples so you never run out of topics. She’ll love you for it color-1]transform you into the super-boyfriend that ALWAYS has something interesting to say.[/highlight-it] I’ll give you a whole bunch of conversation starters so you never run out of topics. She’ll love you for it.

You can ALWAYS Talk to Your Girlfriend About the Past

It’s a no-brainer. Look into your recent or distant past, and see if you can come up with at least 3 things that recently happened with your girlfriend. (If you remember nicknames for your girlfriend, that’s a good thing to slip in there too.) This is one of those dating tips for men that always work. Good things to talk about include:

Does your conversation remind you of a funny story you heard in the past? Bring it up – it’ll enrich the conversation and keep it going for a while longer. Positive humor use has been found to create more satisfying relationships between couples. [R]

Does the current situation remind you of a positive experience in the past? Bring it up – not only will you lighten the mood, but your girlfriend might be enticed to bring up an experience or two of her own, as well.

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Talking to Your Girlfriend About the Present

I told you it was easy. Now that we’ve done the past, we just move on to the present. (These often form the best topics of conversation.) Good things to talk about the present include:

This one’s pretty easy – you simply tell her what happened during your day. The more interesting or busy your life is, the more there is to talk about!

This is also very easy – you can ask her how her day went. Your girlfriend will love this – it shows her you’re attentive and sensitive to her needs, and patient enough to listen to her rant if she has to. Understanding women want to share their day is a big key to success with women.

But what if you are both busy at work? Then sending her quick messages over text on the phone asking her about her day is a great start, at least until you next meet up.

Are you hungry? Tired? Horny? Thirsty? Sad? Frustrated? Tell her! Your emotional health is every bit as important as your physical health, and so you’ll need to take care of it too. Being honest and open with your feelings, (my girl likes it when I tell her what’s bothering me) especially with your girlfriend, will help you stay on an even emotional keel… and it will strengthen your bond with your girlfriend, as well. This openness is key to having meaningful conversations and deepening your connection. Tips for women: Listen to your man!

She’s likely ALWAYS going through something. This is a freebie. Just try to understand what she’s going through. It’s extremely easy to get your girlfriend to talk about how she feels about anything – girls love expressing their thoughts and emotions. Just keep in mind that when she does, she’s not looking for solutions – she’s looking for sympathy and support. Be sure to give it to her. She’ll tell her girlfriends she feels grateful to have found you.

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Are you both experiencing something at the same time? Talk about it. Give your opinion, and then ask her for hers. It’s a great way to start a conversation wherever you might be, whatever you might be doing together.

Ah, TV. It’s been called the biggest productivity drain in the history of mankind. Fortunately, when building a relationship with your girlfriend, you’re not looking for productivity – you’re looking for intimacy. Watch TV together and talk about the shows you watch – it’s something you can do for an hour every single day. Love and relationships are sometimes built on mundane activities!

That’s right – when you have a disagreement with your girlfriend, don’t give each other the silent treatment. It’s a golden opportunity for conversation – don’t waste it!

It takes a confident, level-headed guy to tell his girlfriend: “Hey, got a minute? We got to talk about this…” and then work out a compromise. Every problem you solve together as a couple will make you stronger in the long run, and help lay the foundations for a more productive, more satisfying relationship. [R]

Relationships are not like when you were first dating, problems will come and solving them makes you stronger

It’s also healthy to talk to your girlfriend about your immediate and distant future together. Good things to talk about include:

You two have goals for your relationship – pick the next immediate goal you have, and talk to her about it. Ask questions, take down notes, make a list or game plan. Few things can beat the feeling that you’re “in this together” with your girlfriend, and work together to make great things happen.

After planning comes the grind. Even discussing who does what around the house counts as a conversation, and it helps you show your girlfriend how reliable you are (and vice-versa). This is important – we all need our significant others to be the most reliable persons in our lives.

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My Big “Discovery” About Conversation

Listen: I USED to think that conversations with my girlfriend should always be interesting, or positive, or exciting, or meaningful, and so on.

While it IS good to have conversations like that, that shit doesn’t always happen! You’ll inevitably have days when you DON’T have anything interesting/exciting/meaningful to talk to her about. What should you do then?

“Conversations can be ordinary and mundane… and STILL help build a happy relationship”

Fortunately, conversations don’t have to be profound. (Isn’t that profound?) Don’t listen to me, according to a study that tracked the conversations happy couples had with each other, conversations can be ordinary and mundane… and STILL help build a happy relationship between you. [R] You’ll both feel connected, even after if it’s not a deep conversation.

Alright, cut the scientific ‘BS’ you say? You just want to be spoon fed information? FINE. I’m going to introduce to you my magical “never fails” technique so you can keep the conversations going and never EVER run out of things to talk to.

The secret is: “Past, present, and future.”

Yes, it’s that simple and I can’t believe I’m giving it in a free online article but let me explain…

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How to Never Run Out of Things to Talk About

If you’ll notice, you’ll never run out of things to talk about if you share a busy, active, exciting life with your girlfriend – there’s always something new to talk about. Your conversations may not always be interesting, exciting, or meaningful… but they strengthen your relationship nonetheless, and that’s the most important thing!

Just remember: Past, Present, and Future. Always have good stories to tell and inspiring goals to plan… and yes, don’t forget to ask her how her day went! With this, you’ll be good for a long time!

Personal Conversation Cheat Sheet

Here are some notes I wrote down when I was brainstorming what I should say.

While you SHOULD be concerned about your girlfriend’s needs, be careful not to get TOO concerned. Many guys make the mistake of prioritizing their girlfriend’s needs and ignoring their own – and this is ultimately bad for the relationship.

Remember, she needs YOU to be in top shape too, both physically and emotionally. So don’t neglect yourself, and don’t give what you don’t have.

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Frequently Asked Question

How do I start a romantic conversation with my girlfriend?

The conversation should always be romantic with your girlfriend! It’s not about what you say but instead, how you say it. Tonality will go further towards establishing the type of conversation you’re having than the words that you speak.

How do I keep a conversation going with my girlfriend?

Wanting to know how to keep a conversation going is normal and healthy. Here are tips to keep it going. Start things off to invite her to talk. …
Ask her some questions.
Make yourself look good throughout the conversation.
Accept pauses.
Keep the conversation light.
Focus on body language.
Keep the attention always on her.
End on a good note if she tells you that she has to leave.

What talk about with your girlfriend?

Wanting to know what to talk about is normal and fortunately, there are hundreds of different options! You can talk about anything however talking about yourself or your day is the easiest way to get the conversation started. Start by sharing your own personal experiences and get her to jump into the conversation.

Resources So You Always Have Something To Say

Want more information on fun things to talk about with your girlfriend or simply want to talk a look at our sources? Here they are:

1. A detailed ultimate guide on 41 things to say to your girlfriend under any scenario by Puatraining.com
2. Mapping the topography of couples’ daily conversation – Journal of Social and Personal Relationships by Jess K. Alberts, Christina G. Yoshimura, Michael Rabby, Rose Loschiavo
3. An interesting talk by CapstonePublishing on How to Reduce Conflict and Build Better Relationship… this also applies to relationships
4. Humor Use in Romantic Relationships: The Effects of Relationship Satisfaction and Pleasant Versus Conflict Situations – The Journal of Psychology, Interdisciplinary and Applied by Bethany Butzer & Nicholas A. Kuiper

5. Emotion Regulation in Romantic Relationships: The Cognitive Consequences of Concealing Feelings – Journal of Social and Personal Relationships by Jane M. Richards, Emily A. Butler, James J. Gross

1. What are some things your girlfriend enjoys talking about?

Some common topics that many girlfriends enjoy discussing include their relationships, their friends, their families, their hobbies, their careers, and current events. If you’re not sure what your girlfriend enjoys talking about, simply ask her! She’ll be more than happy to let you know what topics she enjoys discussing.

2. What are some things that make your girlfriend happy?

Some things that make my girlfriend happy are when I show her affection, when I listen to her, and when I spend time with her. I also make her happy when I do things that she enjoys, like going on walks or watching her favorite TV show.

3. What are some things your girlfriend is passionate about?

She might be passionate about her work, her friends, and her family. She could also be passionate about her hobbies, which include reading, writing, and spending time outdoors.

4. What are some things your girlfriend finds funny?

Some things that are generally found funny by most girlfriends include:
-Silly faces and voices
-Pranks
-Funny stories
-Funny jokes
-Funny movies and TV shows
-Funny websites
-Funny pictures
-Funny videos

5. What are some things your girlfriend finds interesting?

Some things your girlfriend may find interesting are spending time with friends and family, going on adventures, learning new things, researching topics that are important to her, dancing, and spending time outdoors. These are just a few examples, and it is likely that your girlfriend has many other interests. Talk to her about the things she enjoys and ask her to share more with you about the things that interest her.

6. What are some things your girlfriend would like to change?

Some common things that girlfriends often want to change include their partner being more communicative, more present, more affectionate, or more considerate. Additionally, many girlfriends also want their partner to be more financially stable, to have a better job, or to be more successful in general.